Solving your couple problems is good, not reliving them is better!

Tired of arguing with your spouse?

Do you have deep worries about your relationship?

Are you looking to end, once and for all, the incessant problems?

To have absolute faith to change your situation, to have an unshakable confidence to be able to free you from problems, all the problems you can face in a relationship?

But a big challenge exists: There is a lot of information online about couple problems. Some good ones. Some are bad. Others are atrocious and superficial.

So, to help you see more clearly about the problems of couple, I present you a complete article which gathers the following topics:

  • What is a couple problem? ;
  • Your beliefs about couple problems
  • Why is it so difficult to solve a problem of torque? ;
  • How does a couple problem arise? ;
  • The process that recreates your couple problem;
  • What to do to overcome a couple problem?

Let’s start with the base first.

What is a couple problem?

There is a couple problem, when you either feel discomfort or discomfort with something that has happened in your relationship.

If it has not happened yet, your mind creates in you a worry or fear about what might happen.

So it would be wrong to believe that your couple is fine, hopefully for you!

The other also experiences feelings and emotions , and you can not know what is good or bad for the other, or the other for you, because no one has authority over it except his own person.

What are the most common and challenging couple problems?

Here is a list of the most important problems in a relationship and they are divided into three distinct categories:

1. The bad feeling about something that has already happened ;

  • Infidelity or adultery;
  • Verbal or physical violence
  • The crisis of jealousy, possessiveness or exclusivity;
  • Boredom or monotony of security;
  • Absence and remoteness;
  • The obligations imposed;
  • Judgment and criticism;
  • Sentence ;
  • Manipulation;
  • Bullying
  • Moral harassment;
  • Power abuse ;
  • Bad mood;
  • Indifference, negligence or depreciation;

2. Concern about a desire that you can miss ;

  • Lack of passion;
  • The lack of money ;
  • Lack of interest;
  • Lack of affection;
  • Lack of sexual desire;
  • Lack of confidence;
  • Lack of honesty;
  • Lack of support

3. The fear of a need that you can lose ;

  • Fear of losing emotional needs;
  • The fear of losing your survival needs.

Your feeling about someone or something is your truth. If you feel good, then that is who you are. If you feel bad, then that is who you are not, but must exist in order to have a choice.

In the rest of this article, I will not discuss all these problems of torque in detail, but only the process that gives them birth and a choice of solution to put an end to it.

Are your beliefs yours to handle a couple problem?

Can you observe that the major obstacle to ending your relationship problems is your beliefs?

Beliefs you have taken and acquired from others since childhood without checking through your experiences and feelings, if they worked to get along well in relationships?

In other words, no matter what you do to solve a problem of a couple, if you have the same beliefs that have produced this problem, you will never succeed, because a belief does not evolve, it remains frozen in the past by seeking to have it continue in the future.

You will live small moments of happiness that will temporarily relieve your situation, but do not be deceived, do not be fooled by appearances, because nothing in you or in the other will change.

What matters is to observe your beliefs and see those that do not support your happiness, your well-being as a couple. It is not necessary to change all the bricks in your house, but to replace those that no longer support the structure.

Therefore, if you do not understand your beliefs, your reactions, and have no interest in observing yourself or understanding yourself, I am afraid that you will aggravate your relationship problems and have to separate or live together without love. .

Why is it so difficult to overcome a couple problem?

When millions of people believe deeply in something, it does not matter if it works, it’s hard not to believe it because everyone lives this way!

The way to solve the problems of couple are the perfect example!

With the many quarrels, separations and divorces that never end, there is something wrong with solving a problem.

There are actually 4 deep transmitted beliefs that prevent you from ending a couple problem:

  • Deny your responsibility – believe that you are the victim of a nasty person and thus be divided in your relationship by seeing each other as an adversary, not as a partner.
  • Judge the other – believe that the cause is external to you, never in you, and so blame the other, blame the other, find a culprit and therefore, never observe you, nor intend to understand.
  • Correct something – look for solutions to correct the other, the appearance or the effect of the problem by putting a temporary bandage, instead of understanding that you are the creator or co-creator of everything that happens to you.
  • Repeat the problem – react by forgetting to change your state of being that gives birth to the problem, no matter what you do, instead of realizing that the only solution is by example, so to offer to the other what you want for you.Everything really starts with you!

So when you have a couple problem, you also have to deal with the negation, the judgment, the correction and the repetition of the problem. This only adds more frustration, more discouragement and more conflict in your relationship.

In truth, it is your beliefs, not your corrective solutions that prevent you from freeing yourself from your relationship problems.

Observe around you, you will see that everyone is looking for corrective solutions to do to solve the same problem of torque.

Even preventive solutions are corrective solutions because they forget the beliefs or states of being to transform.

This produces only confusion, disorder and problems multiply.

Nobody observes beliefs and all react to this way of doing things.

Therefore, you need to change some beliefs and not change the way you do things, change the way you do things that are based on the same beliefs.

To get there, you need to understand the process that created your couple problem and see that it does not work.

This awareness will make it possible to bring into existence in your mind, a contrary belief that works and thus have the freedom to choose to express it or not in your relationship.

What matters is to observe your beliefs and see those that do not support your happiness, your well-being as a couple. It is not necessary to change all the bricks in your house, but to replace those that no longer support the structure.

Therefore, if you do not understand your beliefs, your reactions, and have no interest in observing yourself or understanding yourself, I am afraid that you will aggravate your relationship problems and have to separate or live together without love. .

Why is it so difficult to overcome a couple problem?

When millions of people believe deeply in something, it does not matter if it works, it’s hard not to believe it because everyone lives this way!

The way to solve the problems of couple are the perfect example!

With the many quarrels, separations and divorces that never end, there is something wrong with solving a problem.

There are actually 4 deep transmitted beliefs that prevent you from ending a couple problem:

  • Deny your responsibility – believe that you are the victim of a nasty person and thus be divided in your relationship by seeing each other as an adversary, not as a partner.
  • Judge the other – believe that the cause is external to you, never in you, and so blame the other, blame the other, find a culprit and therefore, never observe you, nor intend to understand.
  • Correct something – look for solutions to correct the other, the appearance or the effect of the problem by putting a temporary bandage, instead of understanding that you are the creator or co-creator of everything that happens to you.
  • Repeat the problem – react by forgetting to change your state of being that gives birth to the problem, no matter what you do, instead of realizing that the only solution is by example, so to offer to the other what you want for you.Everything really starts with you!

So when you have a couple problem, you also have to deal with the negation, the judgment, the correction and the repetition of the problem. This only adds more frustration, more discouragement and more conflict in your relationship.

In truth, it is your beliefs, not your corrective solutions that prevent you from freeing yourself from your relationship problems.

Observe around you, you will see that everyone is looking for corrective solutions to do to solve the same problem of torque.

Even preventive solutions are corrective solutions because they forget the beliefs or states of being to transform.

This produces only confusion, disorder and problems multiply.

Nobody observes beliefs and all react to this way of doing things.

Therefore, you need to change some beliefs and not change the way you do things, change the way you do things that are based on the same beliefs.

To get there, you need to understand the process that created your couple problem and see that it does not work.

This awareness will make it possible to bring into existence in your mind, a contrary belief that works and thus have the freedom to choose to express it or not in your relationship.

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